David Bowie, Lesley Gore, and life after the death of my icons


David Bowie, Lesley Gore, and life after the death of my icons

David Bowie, Lesley Gore, and life after the death of my icons

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When Lesley Gore died last year, I read through the excerpt in my teenage diary about the worst prom night of my life. When David Bowie died this past Monday, I cried and watched the Top of the Pops video that made him my first crush.

Gore and Bowie seem incongruously different: One was a teenage angst poet; the other was an androgynous rock star. And both were queer icons: Gore later came out in 2005, while Bowie gave countless interviews about his suality in the ’70s.

Yet both icons were cultural touchstones in helping me to figure out my identity, where a song like “You Don’t Own Me” felt like my anthem to defy my parents, and poring over Bowie’s ever-changing looks in magazines spurred me to make dramatic fashion changes.

For me, in mourning them, I have had to knock them off their pedestals and look at how their music and personas acted as catalysts in my life.

“My crush is Mark from Westlife, who’s yours?” went the common playground refrain between my primary school friends at lunchtime. But the man I had seen on TV the night before had orange hair in a spiky bouffant that extended into a strangely stylish mullet, and he wore a yellow and blue jumpsuit that was blushingly skin-tight; I knew even then that he was unacceptable crush material.

That electrifying performance of “Starman” on a Top of the Pops rerun had me swooning when I was 8. It was a sudden departure from my usual intake of the music countdown show, where I’d laugh at the funny haircuts and gawk at the moshing and grooving of the gangly white kids on stage with the musicians. “Starman” felt so shockingly conspiratorial to me, Bowie looking right into the camera with his smirky grin and oozing in alien s appeal that was so knowing and intense. Flirting to the camera in a strange and dangerous manner, he was a jarring clash against my regular musical diet of British boy-bands and generic pop stars at the time.

Bowie went through the sliding doors of transformation and came out as Davy Jones, Ziggy Stardust, Aladdin Sane, The Halloween King, and The Thin White Duke. I didn’t realize it until later, but Bowie showed me that identities are malleable.

When I moved from London to Vancouver in high school, I hadn’t quite finished growing up where I was and I didn’t feel in my skin until much later on. I thought that speaking in British slang would allow me to keep some semblance of my Britishness that I’d left behind, but it only made my classmates laugh and typify me as that weird Indian girl with the accent.


Rediscovering The Rise and Fall Of Ziggy Stardust and The Spiders From Mars at 14 was like finding a cultural tome. It cut through the clutter of Simple Plan, Green Day, and My Chemical Romance, acts I’d only listen to if my crush of the month liked them.

Ziggy Stardust was a misfit like me. He wore bizarre clothes that set him apart from the humans around him, and more importantly, he sang in his accent and owned it. I didn’t think that that was why I loved the album at first, but hearing him drawl on his aahs and his seductive delivery in a Brixton accent was just so cool.

Hybridity was not something Bowie shied away from. From the drag style of Ziggy Stardust to the outlandish designs of Kansai Yamamoto in the Aladdin Sane era, Bowie experimented with fashion in ways that were so performative and authentic to his personality. The summer before I turned 16, I got inspired to throw out all my grungy clothes after indoctrinating myself with ‘60s Bollywood film fashion, and flipping through the gorgeous photo book, “David Bowie Black Book” by Barry Miles. I’d like to think I befuddled many of my classmates when I entered the school year with a new wardrobe of loud graphic tees and vintage dresses. But I had Bowie to thank for giving me the kick to try something radically new and to strut around with the confidence of Ziggy.

Although Ziggy and Aladdin Sane were my inspirations, I had to come to terms with Bowie’s flirtation with Nazism in “The Thin White Duke,” whom he described as an “an emotionless Aryan superman.” In spite of being such a transcending figure for me as a South Asian woman, this iteration was a jarring reminder of his racial exclusivity where I was “the Other.” I found it hard to love his gem “Heroes,” because what type of hero did he mean that “we” could be? Bowie later disavowed his statements, saying he was in the throes of a harrowing cocaine addiction, but the Duke was an unsavoury character that left me feeling alienated from that aspect of his artistry.

It’s hard to grapple with that period of Bowie’s trajectory, especially after learning about the account of Lori Maddox, who lost her virginity to Bowie at 15, and the rape allegations in 1987 which have recently resurfaced. Especially as a fan of his work, it’s vital not to elide any of these stories when taking into account what he meant to me. He participated in an era where rock stars with privilege and money got away with illicit relationships with teenage fans, an undeniably horrible fact. Yet, also true: His incredibly out-sized impact on people from all sorts of marginalized backgrounds, for whom role models and aspirational figures are few and far between. For that, I have to be grateful.

As Bowie encouraged me to live fearlessly in my fashion reinventions, Lesley Gore allowed me to mope and dance through my boy-crazy teenage years. But “It’s My Party” still feels acutely painful — because I shudder thinking back to the day after my prom.

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